I get asked all the time, almost weekly – “How do you have so much energy?”
Here’s the truth:
I was born this way.
I don’t drink five coffees a day. I’m not on some wild biohacking protocol. I’m just built like this. High energy. High drive. High output. And most of the time? It’s a superpower.
But not always.
This week, it hit me in the other direction. That edge, the one that gets things done, creates businesses, inspires teams, felt sharp in the wrong way. So I scrapped the episode I planned, hit record, and just talked. About energy. About insomnia. About hyper-fixation, ADHD-ish spirals, fast-talking chaos, and what it actually takes to function at a high frequency without frying your nervous system.
Here’s everything I wish more women, leaders, and high-performers were saying out loud.
Yes, I Move Fast But That’s Not the Whole Story…
My energy gives me discipline. Vision. Obsession-level follow-through.
I can knock out a to-do list like a machine, work twelve hours straight (and love it), and juggle a million tabs in my brain at once.
But it also means:
- Insomnia — especially when I’m building something big
- Hyperfixation — if it’s new and exciting, I’m all in, fast
- Overcommitting — because I say yes before thinking
- Mental spirals — racing thoughts that don’t have an off switch
Sometimes my energy feels like caffeine I didn’t drink. It vibrates in my chest. It makes sleep impossible. It makes slowing down feel like failure.
And when people say, “Wow, I wish I had your energy,” I smile. Because I get it. But they’re seeing the highlight reel, not the 3am emails or the days I forget to pee because I’m so deep in flow.
Let’s Talk ADHD (Even if It’s Not Diagnosed)
I’ve never officially been diagnosed with ADHD. I don’t feel like I need a label because I’ve built a toolbox around it. I work with a life coach. A holistic therapist. An acupuncturist. I’m constantly tweaking and tuning my systems to support my brain.
But the patterns are there:
- Fast speech (and the shame that came with it growing up)
- Racing thoughts
- Dopamine-fueled project obsession
- The constant craving for “new” And when that energy isn’t channeled or managed? I crash. Not in a dramatic, fall-apart way, but in tiny signals:
– Waking at 2am.
– Overwhelmed by nothing.
– Forgetting people’s names.
– Skipping the gym even though I know I need it.
– Getting physically sick from my own internal RPM.
How I Manage It (Most of the Time)
I’m 37 now. I know myself. I know the patterns.
Here’s what I’ve built to stay grounded, even when my brain wants to sprint:
48-Hour Rule for Decisions
No saying yes on the spot. Not to projects, people, puppies, or apartments. I let the hype cool, then I decide. (Shoutout to Alina for teaching me this one.)
Movement = Medicine
Gym. Walks. Sweat. Nature. It’s not optional, it’s regulation. It gets me out of my head and into my body.
Self-Care That Isn’t Boring
I switch it up every 4–6 weeks. One month it’s baths and journaling. The next it’s house cleaning with a podcast in my ears. I keep my rituals interesting, or I abandon them.
Sleep = Sacred
No phone in the room. Audiobooks over scrolling. Screens off an hour before bed (or I’m toast).
Support System
My husband, my business partner, my team, they all know how I work. They don’t judge it. But they do gently call me out when I’m slipping. And I’ve learned to listen.
What Burnout Really Looks Like (When You Love Everything You’re Doing)
Here’s the kicker: burnout doesn’t always look like dread.
Sometimes it looks like joy.
Because I love everything I’m working on right now. My salons are thriving, Tanner Consulting is growing and I’m building online programs I’m obsessed with, but love doesn’t make you invincible. In fact, the things I love are often the ones that drain me fastest, because I don’t stop. There’s no natural break point. And that’s where I get caught. I’ll sleep 4 hours, bounce out of bed, crush 15 things by 9am, and feel fine. But the crash is always coming. Unless I manage it.
The Big Realisation
If I don’t look after myself, no one gets the best of me.
Not my clients.
Not my team.
Not the 17 women I mentor.
Not my husband.
And definitely not me.
So now, when I start to slip, I pull myself back.
I tell my team:
“My phone’s off from 8pm tonight. Don’t text me.”
I schedule a dog walk instead of another meeting.
I say no to shiny things, even if they feel like The Next Big Thing.
I track my energy like a business metric. Because it is.
If You’re Like Me – Or You Love Someone Like Me
Whether you’ve got the energy of a Labrador or the calm of a cat, we’re all wired differently.
The key? Know yourself. Support yourself. Structure your life around your strengths – and protect your edges.
Because high energy isn’t something to envy or resent.
It’s something to manage, honour, and channel with intention.
So next time someone asks me, “How do you do it all?”
I’ll say: I don’t. Not all at once. And not without a system.
Small shifts create big change.
Keep shifting your business, and yourself forward.
